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Couples Therapy
When conversations keep turning into arguments, or you feel far apart even in the same room, it can be difficult to know what to do next. Patricia Roman uses the Gottman Method in her couples work at Growth Counseling, offering a place to slow down, talk about what is happening, and explore what each of you needs. We offer in-person care in El Paso and telehealth across Texas. You do not need to have everything figured out before reaching out. A free 15-minute consultation is a practical first step toward understanding whether our approach fits your relationship.
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With Patricia Roman · LPC Associate
Questions about getting started ↓When the same conversation keeps happening
You may be arguing about household responsibilities, time together, money, or how decisions get made. The subject changes, but the pattern feels familiar: one person pushes to talk, the other pulls away, and both leave feeling unheard. Sometimes the tension is quieter. You avoid difficult topics, keep conversations practical, or wonder when you stopped feeling like a team.
Couples therapy makes room to look at the pattern together. What happens just before a conversation becomes painful? What does each partner hear, and what were they hoping to communicate? Exploring these questions can help bring the underlying needs into view, including wanting reassurance, respect, connection, or more room to speak.
You do not have to decide whether a concern is serious enough to deserve attention. Feeling stuck, disconnected, or unsure how to talk about something important is a valid reason to ask for support. The aim is to understand what is happening between you and identify changes that matter to both people.
Making space for listening, repair, and connection
Being heard involves more than getting a turn to speak. It also means feeling that your partner understands why an experience affected you. In counseling, you can explore ways to express concerns more clearly, notice when a conversation is escalating, and listen without immediately preparing a defense.
Repair matters because even caring partners hurt or misunderstand one another. A repair might involve acknowledging the impact of your words, clarifying what you meant, or returning to a conversation with a different approach. Therapy gives you room to consider what a meaningful repair would look like for your relationship, rather than relying on an apology that leaves the same issue unresolved.
Your goals may include feeling closer, sharing responsibilities more fairly, or discussing difficult subjects with greater care. We make space for both perspectives while helping you think about the interaction between you. Each partner can consider their own responses and the steps they are willing to take toward a healthier way of relating.
Meet Patricia Roman
Patricia Roman is a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate supervised by Brenda Rueda, LPC-S. Her work includes adults and couples navigating relationship concerns, communication difficulties, anxiety, depression, and life transitions. These concerns can overlap: stress outside the relationship may affect how you connect, and relationship strain may make everyday demands feel heavier.
Patricia uses the Gottman Method in her couples work. Her approaches also include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and Emotionally Focused Therapy. A consultation is an opportunity to ask how her background may relate to the concerns you want to address. The approach to your work together should reflect your needs and goals.
Finding a therapist is also about fit. You deserve an opportunity to describe what brings you in, ask questions, and get a sense of whether you feel comfortable moving forward. You can explore Patricia’s profile and use the free consultation to discuss the kind of support you are seeking.
What to expect when you reach out
The first step is a free 15-minute consultation. Share a little about what is bringing you to counseling and ask about the process, fees, and whether couples work with Patricia may be a fit. You can also discuss your preference for an El Paso appointment or telehealth in Texas. Check our Fees & Insurance page for current pricing information.
At the beginning of counseling, expect a conversation about your relationship concerns and what each of you hopes will be different. You might bring a recent disagreement, describe a period of growing distance, or explain that you are unsure where to start. You do not need a polished account, a shared explanation, or a list of perfectly matched goals.
It can help to think beforehand about what feels most difficult and what you would like your partner to understand. Questions about how sessions work are welcome, too. If you have concerns about whether meeting together is appropriate, raise them during the consultation so the suitability of joint sessions can be considered.
You can begin with uncertainty
Partners do not always arrive with the same level of confidence about counseling or the same hopes for the relationship. One person may want to start immediately while the other worries about being blamed, misunderstood, or pressured. Naming those concerns is a useful part of deciding what comes next.
You may also be unsure about the future of the relationship itself. You can say that honestly when you reach out. A consultation provides a starting point to explain your situation and ask whether this service fits what you need. Neither person needs to pretend that everything feels clear.
If you are ready to explore support, request a free 15-minute consultation with Growth Counseling. Tell us that you are interested in couples therapy, share your main concerns, and bring the questions that matter to you. Starting with a conversation gives you information for making a thoughtful decision together.
Care in El Paso. A clearer place to start.
11680 Montana, Suite 215B, El Paso, TX 79936
Hybrid sessions in El Paso and telehealth throughout Texas.
Fees and your first conversation
Couples sessions with an LPC Associate are $150. Sliding scale is available. Ask about the fee and coverage for your therapist before scheduling.
View fees & insurance →A free 15-minute consultation gives you room to ask about fit, appointment options, and the next step.
Call (915) 263-1070 →Frequently asked questions
Do we need to be married to ask about couples therapy?
You can describe your relationship and what you are seeking during the consultation. Ask whether couples work with Patricia fits your circumstances; you do not need to wait for a particular milestone to raise relationship concerns.
What if we argue about small things?
Repeated disagreements can be exhausting even when the immediate subject seems minor. Counseling can explore the pattern around those conversations and the concerns or needs that are difficult to express.
What if one partner is hesitant about counseling?
Hesitation is worth discussing openly. Ask what feels uncertain and bring questions about the process to the consultation. An initial conversation can help you both understand the service before deciding whether to proceed.
Can we seek help if we are unsure about staying together?
Share that uncertainty when you contact us. The consultation helps clarify what support you are looking for and whether this service is an appropriate fit. You do not need to claim a shared decision you have not made.
Is couples therapy available online?
Growth Counseling offers telehealth across Texas as well as in-person care in El Paso. Ask about the options for your circumstances during your free 15-minute consultation.
How do we find out about fees?
Visit our Fees & Insurance page for current pricing, then bring any questions to the consultation. You can discuss the practical details alongside your goals before deciding on your next step.
Does Patricia use the Gottman Method?
Yes. Patricia Roman uses the Gottman Method in her couples work. During your consultation, you can ask how she brings this approach into sessions and how it may relate to your communication, connection, and relationship goals.
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